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16 Things All 30-Somethings Should Stop Apologizing For This Year


If you were to ask me for an educated guess on the number of times I said a mindless Im sorry in 2015, youd better have a scientific calculator and some time to kill.

I lost track somewhere around 3 am on New Years Day. (Although odds are, most of those were justified.)

Apologies are like burps for me.

Unless you block my nostrils and cover my mouth, they will fly out with reckless abandon.

Im sorry, I mutter as I dig around for $0.86 in my wallet, trying to avoid breaking a $10 bill for Reeses Peanut Butter Cups.

My palms are sweating, my hands are shaking and pennies are flying everywhere.

I eventually succumb to handing over the $10, as to not inconvenience the convenience store clerk any longer.

Im sorry, this pitchers out of whole milk. Would you mind refilling it? I ask the Starbucks barista timidly, like Ive been hanging out at the self-service counter and guzzling it dry all day.

Excuse me, Im sorry, I squeak, trying to dislodge myself from the woman who is using the side of my body to prop up her newspaper.

I’m sorry I wasnt able to morph into a better coffee table for her morning commute.

Apologies are the umm of our generation.

They are half-thought out space-fillers in conversations we dont feel like having.

Whether theyre genuine and justified in an attempt to avoid conflict or an easy way to wrap up a social interaction, Im sure weve all apologized a lot over the past year.

Well, its time to put your foot down.

We shouldnt feel pressured to rush, settle or step aside for people who cant look up from their smartphones.

There will be no more cramming ourselves into the metaphorical or physicalspaces other people have created for us.

Hell, if guzzling whole milk from a pitcher gets us going in the morning, lets not apologize for that either.

In any case, heres a list of 16 things 30-somethings should definitely stop apologizing for in 2016:

1. RSVPing No

You shouldnt have to justify not attending things.

We all have a lot on our plates.

If you find yourself panicked about driving two hours to a baby shower on your only day off, stay home.

Send a check, go back to bed and take care of your own baby.

Ive spent years running myself ragged over events that suck time out of my weekend and money out of my wallet.

Then, it finally dawned on me: Nobody who matters is keeping score.

It might sound harsh, but if we all stopped holding each other to so many obligations, maybe wed actually have time to connect.

2. Your Wardrobe

Your adolescence, teenage years and those scantily-clad days of college are spent dressing to impress everyone but yourself.

As you get older, wear what makes you comfortable.

Dress for your body. Dress for the occasion.

If you need bikini briefs that come up past your belly button to feel good on vacation, strap those bloomers on and never look back.

I like to wear jeans, TOMS and solid-colored shirts every day of my life.

Guess what? Im a happy little hipster.

3. Your Face

One of my favorite lines on this topic comes from Annette Bening in the movie The Women.

A department store salesman tries to sell her a “facelift in a bottle.”

She looks him squarely in the eye and replies, This is my face. Deal with it.

It seems everyone is peddling some product that promises to shrink your pores, get rid of your wrinkles, cure your acne, lengthen your lashes or vaporize your crow’s feet.

You shouldnt apologize for buying right into it (cough) or shutting it down.

If you want to make your own face cream out of avocados and egg whites, I think you’re wasting a perfectly good frittata.

But let me know if it works.

If youd rather spent $99 on 1 ounce of infomercial eye cream, write me.

I can provide you with the details.

4. Your Social Media Presence

Whether you post 20 times a day or have fallen completely off the radar, theres no right or wrong way to do this stuff.

If youre paying that much attention to what others are doing on the Internet, youre clearly sitting on the Internet too much yourself.

5. Not Being In The Same Mental Space As Your Friends

Its tough, but we grow apart.

If theres a shrinking list of things you have in common with even the oldest of your friends, its nothing to beat yourself up over.

Some might just be in very different places in their lives.

Your 30s are a transitional time for everyone involved.

People are carving out the lives they see for themselves, and were all walking around as different sculptors.

Some of us are a little more Donatello, while some are more Michelangelo.

The good stuff always bubbles back to the surface with a true friend, even if youre not currently jiving the way you used to.

6. Your Living Quarters

Owning property should no longer be the criteria by which we measure our success.

You shouldn’t have to go into debt to keep up.

If youre still living with a roommate, sibling, futon or even on a couch, then who cares?

A living arrangement doesnt have to be permanent or pristine.

If you boomeranged back to your parents after a painful breakup, so be it.

Its okay to admit youre unsure of your next step, and youre not going to bank on things until you are.

7. The Fact You Like To Go Dancing

This is more of a metaphor than anything else. (Although, I do love shaking my tail feather from time to time.)

You shouldnt apologize for wanting to dance out your demons.

Whether its in your living room, at a Zumba class, on a bar or in a ballroom, twirl, baby.

8. Your Relationship Status

Theres something to be said for the parallel between RSVPing “no” and your relationship status.

But maybe, youre just over some crazy uncle asking why your boyfriend from six years ago isnt there.

Single, separated, divorced, scorned, cheating, happy, hopeful, gay or straight, you dont owe Uncle Frank an explanation.

9. Your Diet And Fitness Regimen (Or Lack Thereof)

While I always prefer an unruly pile of nachos to a kale salad or protein shake, you gotta do what you gotta do.

This is another thing people seem to like to peddle.

Whether youre training for triathlons, juicing the contents of your kitchen or building Cheeto forts in your living room, its your body.

Nobody has to occupy it but you.

Just try not to be too righteous about it.

Im not going to apologize for eating a cheeseburger any more than a staunch vegetarian might apologize for posting pictures of flax seeds all day.

10. How You Derive Your Income

Money makes the world go round.

Whether you have a career youre passionate about, one youre lukewarm about or three part-time jobs strung together, its nobodys business how you pay your bills.

11. The Fact You’re Turning Into Your Parents

This has been an interesting one to watch unfold.

Try as you might, its going to happen.

Theres no use apologizing for it because you never stood a chance.

All those things you rolled your eyes at from the back seat of the Dodge station wagon?

Theyre flying right out of your mouth now.

I like to yell, Im not made of money! at my cat when we’re on our way home from the vet.

12. Being A Slug

If the pizza delivery guy would come directly to my bedroom window, Id let my bathrobe belt down for him like Rapunzel let down her hair.

Bed pizza is a real and glorious thing.

Dont apologize for being a gross, lazy bum sometimes.

The only way to shine brightly in public is by wasting away in your own slothfulness behind closed doors.

13. Your Travel Style

Some people fly first class and stay in five-star hotels.

Others couch surf, hostel hop or carry their accommodations on their backs.

Seeing the world is admirable, no matter how you make it happen.

You know Jay and Bey arent apologizing for yachting around the French Riviera, so why should I apologize for getting bedbugs in Belize?

14. Your Voice

One of the most common things I apologize for is talking too loudly.

Others say sorry for not being heard.

Some people stutter and others have lisps.

There are the raspy voices and the distinctly high-pitched voices.

You can control your voice to a certain degree, but why bother?

Speak up, whisper, scream, sigh, laugh, sing, squeal and clear your throat.

Just dont whistle. Nobody likes a whistler.

Definitely dont shush anyone; a shush is a personal attack.

15. Your Opinion

Granted, there is a time and a place, but how will anyone know how you feel if you dont speak up?

It’s worseif you apologize for doing so.

If done correctly and not for the sake of idle gossip, giving your opinion can turn you into an opinion leader.

Thats a pretty good seat to be in.

If you opine in a consistently constructive manner, people will start to look to you for wisdom.

Thats a great way to positively shape the lives of others.

16. Your Truth

Whatever it is and however you find it, dont apologize for it once you do.

Dont apologize for how long it takes you, either.

If youve been burying your truth in a lie youre finally free from, welcome back.

Step right in. The waters warm.

Its taken a lot of apologies, conformities and f*ckups to get us to this third decade of our existence.

So, lets take what weve learned and bask in that glorious wisdom of the ages.

We sort of earned it.

Grab your chisel (or your pepperoni pizza) and start carving out what works for you.

Stop apologizing for the pebbles that get left behind.

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